Kailey writes, “im super scared too! i think i may be pregnant and i am only 12!! me and my boyfriend have never had sex i am a virgin but i have every single symptom there can be!! we are both really scared and i cant tell my parents. theyd freak! we are gonna try to get me a test without my parents knowing but they are so expensive! i dont want an abortion and dont really like adoption and im freaked! if anyone can help PLEASE do!!”
Dear Kailey,
If you’ve never had sex (i.e. your boyfriend never put his penis in your vagina irregardless of whether he ejaculated sperm or not), then you shouldn’t have anything to worry about. Could you clarify what your symptoms are? Just respond by answering in the comments section below.
Cheer up!
Hannah
Join in the conversation and share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Hi Hannah,
I’m a 12 year old virgin, but I have ‘messed about’ but I had my uddies on, that was 3 months ago and I have missed my period every time since, I have A strange felling in my belly and I have been putting on weight really quickly, I’m really worried, I have told a few of my friends, but only the ones I really trust, today I told th suspected father, he went wide-eyed and didn’t talk to me for a few hours, he came back at the end of the day and said if I was he would support me and take the wrath, which suprised me, they have been really helpful, I’m going to one of their houses next week so I can get a test without my parents finding out. Any last minute advice?
Tiger,
Did your panties get really wet with semen? Even then, your chances are really slim, unless he actually went into you and pushed your panties up into you and ejaculated. I’m guessing that then you could get some into you that could pose a pregnancy risk; however, just messing around and maybe getting your panties a little damp shouldn’t pose much risk. Most likely it’s just your nerves (or something else – but not pregnancy) which is causing your problems. Go ahead with the urine pregnancy tests and keep us posted.
Good luck!
Hannah
hannah its like u say the same thing all the time wat the hell are u a computer or something
Thanks for your vote of confidence, Faith! Lol
Ok first for all the little 12 year old girls saying I’m a virgin but am I pregnant. Ladies, you can’t be pregnant if you are a virgin. There is so possible way. Maybe, and this is a slim chance, if you took a condom with sperm in it and shoved it in your vagina!!! Thats’s it. Girls you are a virgin which means your body has no sperm in it to create a baby. Sperms and eggs are both needed, it doesn’t just magically happen by the stork youre parents told you about. You girls are not pregnant. And if you are then please dont be convinced you are still a viring because you aren’t! Pregnant people aren’t virgins and vrigins aren’t pregnant people, they don’t go together. And second, you girls are 12. Why are you doing anyting with boys and penises and vaginas. You are twleve years old! You are not even teens! You guys really want to be a mom before HS??? It’s bad enough to be one in HS. But worse to be on before it. Be smart and don’t do anything until you feel ready. And even when you do feel confortable use a condom. And girls please talk to your mothers. They’ll be mad yes, but they are your mothers they will be there for you and will talk to you about safe sex. Be smart and get off website like these about pregnancy and sex. Go shopping, spend time with friends, enjoy being young because you don’t want to be 13 and have a child of your own and no freedom. Plus you are still 3-4 years away from getting a job, how would you take care of your son or daughter, you can’t. Be realistic girls and grow up ok? Be smart!
a little advice my mom wasnt there for me but at the same time i wasnt 11 12 and 13 years old having sex if i did that id get killed by my parents
yes shes rite rite now its an early age 4 girls to get prego dnt let guys make u have sex if u guys dnt want to there will be a time wen u will be ready to have wat it takes to be wit a man rite now dnt ruin ur life ur stilll young go live life
hi im 12 n me n my bf had sex yestereday we used a condom he rolled it up far enough so no sperm could leake through but im worried caz the top of his penis n his balls touched me alittle yesterday was also the last day of my period so there was still alittle bit of blood but im still really scared no symptoms have showed but we only had sex yesterday that was my first time n i have no clue as to wat half of this stuff is i need help fast i hope im not pregnant write back soon
Alaze,
You should be fine. I wouldn’t be too worried if I were you. It’s very unlikely that having sex that way at that time in your period would lend toward you becoming pregnant.
Best luck!
Hannah
thank you soooo much im just hopeing wat u say is true
I am pregnant! Or at least I think I am! I am 19 and have had sex about 10 times but the last time my boyfriend wasn’t wearing a condom and then when we finished there was sperm all over! I freaked! Soon after I got all the sympoms and started to throw up alot! So I took a HPT that was negative and I can’t affort to buy another one! If I am pregnant I wont have any truoble telling my paarents, but the real problem is My boyfriend!
Please help!
HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
Elza,
When was your last period? What day did you have sex with your bf when he didn’t have a condom on? What day did you take the HPT?
Hannah
I had sex with him and it was me period on the 26th May but i missed my period on the 17th of June so I took a HPT on the 21st howver it was negative…
Hi, my name is Rachel. I am 19 years old, married and have a beautiful baby boy! I had my last period on may 15, 11. Today is June 17 and still no period. I do feel a bit nauseous, and have been feeling a little grossed out to certain things(foods) I smell. I took a test on the 15th of June and it was -. Did I test to early? I waited at least 5 days with my little boy. Should I test now or wait?
Hmmm … It may be a bit early (really depends on the sensitivity of the HPT & other factors). I would wait 7 days and then take another HPT (preferably a different brand than your first) and do it first thing in the morning with your concentrated urine.
hi i just got back from camping and i have some bad stomach pains but idk if thats just from camping or wat im just really paranoid that im pregnant caz 3 weeks ago i had sex with my bf im 13 an i pretty much have the same problem as alaze he used a condom but rolled it up halfway an i was still on my period help me!
I’m going thru the same thing ash but I took morning after pills and it has been 4 weeks now I got my periods this week but I’m experiencing some pregnancy symptoms! I’m freking out and I’m getting a home pregnancy test tomorrow. If I’m pregnant I rly can’t keep this baby ever sinve the condom broke I decided to abstain I rly can’t imagine going through this again. All I’m doing now is hoping and praying that I’m not pregnant
Hi,
So I finished my period about 2 weeks ago, and the day after my last day I started getting really sick but only in the morning. I have told my parents about that but I haven’t told them about how bad my boobs hurt, how non-constipated I am and more. My morning sickness has stopes but more symptoms keep showing up like my stomach is expanding and some of my stomach muscles are very sore. Any way the weirdest part is I’m a virgin.
Plz help
Thanks
Btw I’m 16 and another symptom I can smell food from miles away( I’m exagerating)
Im 13 & Not A Virgin Aand My Parents Are Gonna Take Me To The Doctors And To See If Im A Virgin, They Think Im A Virgin But Im Not. What Do iDo!? Help!!!!
doctors cant tell that or not only thing they can see is if u have any diseases believe me my parents did it all the time because they used it as a scare tactic
I’m 14 and a virgin. I’ve never even kissed a guy, but there is one guy who touched my boobs and vagina. He touched me over my pants, and tried to get under, but I stopped him before he went too far. I don’t have any idea, but my friend said that if he had sperm on his hands, which is unlikely, and he put his hand in my pants that he could possibly have gotten sperm in. that is, if it could have traveled all the way the down to the entrance, and I didn’t let him get that far. I know that I’m probably not pregnant cause I’m a virgin, but I’m going to go with my sister, who is 18, to the store tomorrow and buy a pregnancy test, just because I do have a few symptoms, and it may just be hysterical pregnancy, but I’m paranoid. because if my parents found out that I had even talked to a boy, nonetheless be pregnant, they would be really mad. And I drink and smoke (not cigarettes) and until I find out if I’m pregnant, I guess I will stop. I also haven’t had my period for more than a month. I don’t have morning sickness, or nausea at all, but I don’t know if its too early to take a test. The last time my period ended was around May 16 or 17, not sure. And the day I think I may have conceived is June 22. HELP?!
Isabel,
I don’t think you’re pregnant or even close to being pregnant. Just because a guy gets his hands near your vagina (or even if he fingers you), won’t make you pregnant. He’d have to have a lot of sperm on his fingers (in other words, fresh semen from a recent ejaculation) and really go in you with those same fingers in order for you to be at risk. I’d place the bulk of the blame on your nerves. However, as far as the drinking and smoking goes, it never hurts to stop them :)
i am 16 n m a virgin.i hve been maturbating but havent insertd anything in my vagina,i have been feeling dizzy,going to the loo almost like evry 30 min,vomiting a lot.i thnk m a bit late on getting my period.does that mean im pregnant?
Hey,
You ever had sex? Or got some sperm or something on your fingers? By the way Hannah thanks but I found out I am pregnant!
Elza – have you told your bf yet? Are you happy about being pregnant? Nervous?
Yeah I am nervous and I don’t know if i’m happy to be pregnant but I have told my bf and we broke up :(. I think i’ll get by though! Thanks hannah.
P.S.
Do you think I should get an abortion? Sorry for not getting back to you sooner.
Elza,
The decision to have an abortion is your personal decision, but it’s also not a decision to make lightly. My recommendation would be to pop by optionline.org and see if there’s an affiliated location near you (I think they have 124 locations in England). Then, call the location and see if you can come by to speak with one of their staff. I’ve found that it’s helpful to speak with someone in person who can help you weigh the pros & cons. I have many friends who’ve chosen abortion, and, truthfully, I can’t think of a single one who doesn’t regret it. Because of that, choosing to have an abortion is never something I would recommend to just rush into. Also don’t let anyone else pressure you into making a decision. You’ve got to clear your head out and own the decision (yes or no) yourself. But get the facts from both sides.
mpho – if all you’ve been doing is masturbating, there shouldn’t be any way that you could get pregnant. Have you been masturbating a lot more in the past couple of weeks than you usually do or changed the way how you masturbate? That might have some effect on your period.
One odd way to get pregnant from masturbating is if your brother (or bf) gets sperm all over a sex toy, and then you very soon after insert the same sex toy (with sperm on it) into your vagina. But, most people would notice (and most brothers would be sure to clean up any evidence of their own masturbation).
Im 13 and i just misse my pierod i a a vergin but my tummy has been getting bigger an it looks like its rounding out like if someone was pregnate ! i feel a lil sick sometimes and when i push on my stomocit feels a little hard scared and need HELP please D; </3 july21,2011
if ur a vigin then u wont and shouldnt be pregnant unless ur not a virgin and u had un protected sex and if so its alright but i think its only growing and as an adolecent u probably are growing more
im 12 and pregnant im 5 months pregnant u mite be a virgin but if a boy put his sperm anywere near you then that could get u pregnant and sometimes eggs will fall like what happens with ur period but these eggs start growing this is rare but it will happen if that happend u have a 99.9% chance of losing the baby hope i helped!
hi i think i might be pregnant me and my fiancé have been having unprotected sex im about three and bit weeks late and been having alot of the symtoms like stomach pains back pains feeling sick dizzy not about to look at my favourite foods without feeling ill and going right of them sore boobs relly sore head aches going to the loo alot feeling bloated getting weird sensations on the bottom of my stomach my nipples have been erect constantly i have alot of vaginal discharge im also 16 and my fiancé is 19 not eating alot apart from sweets like chocolate and crisps and buscuits all the time we have our own place and seteld down nicly this isent the first time for me i was pregent onec befor and dident find out till i was over 4 mounth we were both over the moon and lovly the thot of becomming mom and dad sadly we lost our little girl a few weeks later it completly brock my hart we bateld to come thro from it and as munch as im happy with the simtoms i cant help but felling unsure im scard because i dont wont anything to hapen this time i alot took a online pegent qwize well 7 and they all say ur probaly pregent and to tack a test iv boght one but cant bring myself to tack it any good itvise well be very gratfull x
hi im relly confused right now im showing prety munch all of the sings of pregency part from being sick iv been sickk ones i took a home pregency test yesaday and it was posative but one line was fant with said its still posative on the box it came in then today i v been on and off light light bleediing i called up the doctor and thefed booked me in for a test and a scan but im gouing out my mind dont no what to think or anything pleses relpy if u can help thanks x
Hi I have a question.. I’m on Lutera but I take it back to back and only to get my period every 12 weeks. well 2 weeks or so ago I finished 1 pack and was supposed to start another pack but I had lost the new pack so I went 4 days without taking a pill. my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex and he did ejaculate into me. I then found my pills the next day and started taking them. What are the chances of pregnancy? I have MS so I take a lot of medication so I’m really scared that if I am pregnant I need to know ASAP so I can stop taking my medications and start prenatals and make sure the baby is healthy. :/ I had a miscarriage in 09 I can’t go through that again.
Alysa,
Your chances of becoming pregnant are slim, but there still is a possibility. When you found your pills, did you take a double/triple dose or just the normal single pill? Did you experience any bleeding during the time you weren’t taking the pills or right after you found them?
I just started taking my pills as normal, I didn’t take any extra pills. I did miss another one a couple days later though because I was in the hospital but I got out the next day and took only that days. the day that I found my new pack I did start bleeding and it was like a normal period for about 5 or 6 days.
The bleeding would most likely be withdrawal bleeding, and not an actual period. Do your pills come in a pack of 28 with the 4th week a different color pill? If so, are you taking all 28 pills and then moving on to your next pack right away? Or, are you on a different pill schedule (as it sounds like from your initial comment)?
I’m only supposed to get my period every 12 weeks. my insurance doesnt approve the BC that actually comes like that so my Dr wrote it to where I’m supposed to skip my sugar pills and go on to the next pack. I take the sugar pills on the 4th pack that would be the 12th week to get my period. but it hasn’t been 12 weeks it had only been 9
Ok, that’s what I was thinking, based on your initial post. When you do birth control like that, you’re usually fine if you have a long miss as you had (though they still recommend you double up on pills once you restart). Your odds of being pregnant are quite slim, but it would still be smart to take a home pregnancy test once 2-3 weeks have passed since having unprotected sex. Also, when you restart BC after a long skip like you had, it’s best to use a condom for a week.
ok thank you so much I’ll be sure to take a HPT in a week or two
- So , i had unprotected intercourse last month on the 27th of june . Afterwards i was spotting brownish and pinkish discharge for a day maybe. So now it’s july i haven’t gotten my period but the 26th of july i spotted again . It was bright red and it went on for 3 days and it ended up being pink when i wiped . It wasn’t enough to fill up a pad nor tampon . I have slight crampings on my left side, my breast are sensitive/tender and sore, i can smell food and other things from far distance , i can’t get comfortable when im about too go too sleep, i urinate every 2o to 30 minutes, i get aggravated much easier, i seem too sleep alot me and my boyfriend both,and i always feel nauseous/drouzy through out the day and im also constipated any idea’s?
hi, about 4 weeks ago my boyfriend had inserted just the tip of his penis in my butt for about 2 seconds if not less. 2 days after that i got my normal, usual period. But ever since i’ve been feeling dizzy and lightheaded.. I also have iron difficiency, could it be because of that? I am expecting my period in about 2 days. My breasts are sore and I’ve been pretty gassy lately.
PLEASE HELP
If it was in your Butt your fine. Im Always like that just drink Lots of water and eat Salty snacks. All day long for bout a week. if it still keeps Happening see a doctor.
Me and my boyfriend always have unprotected sex. we’ve never used a
Condom. but I’ve never got pregnant. But now I think I am. We had sex while I was ovulating. I’ve had pain in my right abdomen and weird spotting that’s lasted 3 days. It’s very light it only shows up on toilet paper. I’m 18 and have been with my boyfriend for a year. He is 22 and we are going to move in with each other when I finish uni. I wouldn’t mind being pregnant. I’ve always wanted a baby. I just wanna know I I’m pregnant. What are the chances of me being pregnant?
hi i got my period on the 1st of aug till 7 aug 2011 so on the 8th aug me nd my bf of 6yrs had sex nd he said he thnk he came a little inside me so i just wnt to knw if its possible if i cn be pregnant nd when should i take a test iam 22 by the way nd his 27 nd we will not mind being prego…nd For that 12yr old children i thnk its all in ur mind stop wantng to be preg u are urself still a child so stop fooling around.
Hello,
I’m 15 years of age.
I recently (about a week and a half ago) had unprotected sex for the first time. He did pull out, just before he ejaculated. However I’m really scared about pre-cum. I’ve seen his pre-cum before. It resembles water, COMPLETELY. No shade to it, just clear. No more than a dime size comes out at a time. My period is due within a week and a half. My moms however (she is not sexually active) had hers more than a month late. Will her period some how affect my cycle? and What are my chances of being pregnant?
Dear Anna,
You’re probably fine, though you should use a condom or get started on some form of birth control medication if you plan to regularly have sex in the future. And, no, your mom’s period will have no effect on your cycle.
Hi,
I am 16 years old and I have never had sex a day in my life. No sex of any kind. But, my period is about 2 months late. I’ve recently been exploring the wonders of masturbating of all different types. Does this have anything to do with it? I can’t be pregnant right?
I am scared.
it could just be stress….being stressed out can cause ur body to do weird things and a delayed menstral cycle is one of them….try to ease the stess and u should be back to new in no time
Hi,
I am 16 years old and I have never had sex a day in my life. No sex of any kind. But, my period is about 2 months late. I’ve recently been exploring the wonders of masturbating of all different types. Does this have anything to do with it? I can’t be pregnant right?
I am scared.
Chelsea,
If Sperm is not in contact with your egg then you CANNOT get pregnant. Its that simple. I had VERY irragular periods also. Id have my period for 4 weeks straight then miss is for 3 months.. sometimes thats normal for some people. Unless you have had a penis inside you then you are not pregnant. Masturbation does not get you pregnant.
Chelsea – No, you wouldn’t be pregnant, but, yes, masturbating (especially some variations of that) could affect the regularity of your cycle. I wouldn’t be too worried about it.
i have never had sex but my boyfriend cumed on my body near my stomach area and i have missed my periods for like 1 month i have taken 2 pregnency tests and they said i wasent pregnet but im still so scared
Aya – you definitely don’t want to let any sperm get near your vagina. While it’s still pretty difficult getting pregnant that way, it’s best to play safe and not let it get too close, especially if your boyfriend likes to finger you (i.e. and he might have some semen on his fingers). Most likely you aren’t pregnant and it’s just nerves which are causing you to skip.
im 13 and i never had sex before, and my period is about 1 week late. im getting really scared. could i be pregnant?
Dear kk – No, you wouldn’t be pregnant, unless you’d been exposed to semen/sperm from a guy. Have you been having regular monthly periods for a couple years? How long have you been having your period? Periods can be delayed or skipped from time to time. We just get used to it after a while! Exercise, diet change, stress, nerves, sickness – all these things can have an impact on our somewhat sensitive bodies.
Me and My boyfriend are definatley in love, he’s been wanting to ‘finger’ me for weeks and yesterday i finally let him, but he was wet down below and he had touched himself before he did it, could i get pregnant?
I am 18 years old and I have had 4 sexual partners, 3 by choice and one unwillingly. Since I have been with this new sexual partner, we have not been using any forms of contraception other than the “pull-out method” but one morning when we were having sex he was shocked at how quick it was. I’m not 100% sure if he came inside me or not and I haven’t asked because I don’t want to freak him out if there is no need. I am now 2 weeks past the date I should have had my last period. I did take a pregnancy test 3 or 4 days after I missed my period and it came back negative, but I am still confused because for the past 6 months or so I have been very regular and now I am late. It could just be natural, but I am not sure. I am grateful for any advice that you can give me.
Also, I am having some of the symptoms, i.e.: freequent urination, fatigue, missed periods, increase in appetite, I haven’t really noticed anything else. We have never used a condom or anything other than the pull out method, so I am unsure if I could be pregnant or not. please help.
I am 18 years old and I have had 4 sexual partners, 3 by choice and one unwillingly. Since I have been with this new sexual partner, we have not been using any forms of contraception other than the “pull-out method” but one morning when we were having sex he was shocked at how quick it was. I’m not 100% sure if he came inside me or not and I haven’t asked because I don’t want to freak him out if there is no need. I am now 2 weeks past the date I should have had my last period. I did take a pregnancy test 3 or 4 days after I missed my period and it came back negative, but I am still confused because for the past 6 months or so I have been very regular and now I am late. It could just be natural, but I am not sure. I am grateful for any advice that you can give me.
Also, I am having some of the symptoms, i.e.: freequent urination, fatigue, missed periods, increase in appetite, I haven’t really noticed anything else. We have never used a condom or anything other than the pull out method, so I am unsure if I could be pregnant or not. please help. Also, I noticed a few spots of blood when I should have got my last period, but i never actually got it.
Im jell! Im 15, and sorry, but im pretty, lol and im a sophomore in high school, and i didnt have my first KISS untill 4 months ago! And got fingerd like 2 1/2 ago! Like kids. Stop trying to grow up so fast! All this talk about being prego!?! Masterbate like a normal kid.
Hi Im Victoria
Sorry I’m writing this I’m getting starved and I been noticing my vag is herting alot more and I’m not exactly sure but my last period was about 8/14/11 and I missed September and I’m very scared if I do missed this month but my mind hasn’t said I’m pregnant and but I’m not like those twelve years old.
Im not having sex till I’m out of HS and so yah.
I’m very scared I been having cramps and I dont want to commite to use a preg test. me I think it’s for mature ppl that are commited to sex.Can somebody give me some addvice pls. I’m very scared. :-( (sad mixed with crying)
Hey Victoria,
How old are you? How long have you been having your period? Have you had sex? Has your period been irregular before? Stress and being worried can easily mess up our regular cycle and make it come late or be skipped altogether.
Just trying to help,
Hannah