Can My Doctor Tell I’ve Been Playing with Myself?

hi hannah im 13 years old and have my yearly check up coming up in a month. I havent ever had sex with a guy but i have “played with my self” and heard that a doctor can tell if your a virgin or not can my doctor assume im not a virgin and tell my mom she at least thinks im sexually active?

i dont want my mom to get the idea that im not a virgin and i also dont want her to know that i do stuff with my self. Should I tell my doctor anything about it?????

Amanda (13)

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Dear Amanda,

No, I wouldn’t worry about telling your doctor anything. Most people masturbate, and doctors are quite used to seeing signs of it (if any are visible). Whether or not signs are visible really depends on a number of things such as what you may have used to play with and how deep you went. A broken girl’s hymen is typically the sign of her having had sex or playing with certain sex toys. However, many girls have their hymens broken before their first sexual experience; this can happen through horseback riding, bike riding, etc.

A real doctor is going to maintain patient confidentiality. And, in a typical 13 year old yearly check up, your doctor shouldn’t be digging down deep enough to discover that your hymen is broken (if it is) … so I wouldn’t be too worried.

Hope your day goes better!
Hannah