Maya Gee, age 11, writes, dear hannah, im a virgin, but i used to lik this boy, and now i think i might be pregnant. the father is a total idiot, becuz he’s dated a lot of girls in his past & now he’s with the same girl for the fifth time. and shes my friend, but she knows tht i think im pregnant, but she’s cool with i,t and im happy tht she is; but not to happy about the father, becuz he’s very unwilling and disrespectful, and he’s a player. and me and him did lik eachother, but he got with my bff instead. i cried and cried, and his gf want to tell him, but i told her not to tell him, becuz i want to tell him. but i wonder if he’s gonna talk crap about me. my question is: should i tell him tht i might be pregnant with his baby, or i shouldn’t tell him what should i do. PLZ!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Maya Gee,
Did you actually have sex with him? Or, to put it more bluntly, did he ever put his penis into your vagina or get his penis near your vulva? If you only hugged and kissed (no matter how passionately), then you’re not going to get pregnant. If he put his hand down your underwear and fingered you (i.e. placing his finger in your vagina), then you still won’t get pregnant. You can only get pregnant if he puts his penis into your vagina and ejaculates semen (which contains live sperm) … AND then only if that sperm comes in contact with and fertilizes the egg which your body releases each month. Even if you had sex with him one time, that still doesn’t mean you’ll automatically get pregnant. It means that there is risk, yes, but just having sex doesn’t automatically mean his baby is growing inside you.
If you have had sex with him, then please let us know, and then I’ll probably have a few more questions for you.