Worried I’m Pregnant after First Time Sex

worriedAriana, age 15, writes:

My boyfriend & I had sex about a month ago , on the 14th of June & I’m worried about being pregnant /: I know some of this stuff it just getting to my head , but I’m still scared out of my mind , will you please help me !

We had protected sex with a condom that was “super mega” strength , actually we used 2 (which I know is not a good idea now because of friction) , although neither broke. Although he did want to stick his bare penis inside of me , he wiped it off first though because he previously ejaculated. Although he didn’t even get it in because the tip was sensitive & it hurt. The sex lasted about a minute or 2 , if that’s important. & it was our first time.

I didn’t even worry about it until 2 weeks later it hit me that there is a possibility that I could have gotten pregnant. So , since then I’ve most likely been getting paranoid more & more. My tummy seems to “get bigger” to me, i’m pretty sure it’s just my normal belly jiggle , plus I have NOT by any means been eating right , soda & candy & rarely real food.

My period was pretty normal , although it only lasted 4 days & was fairly heavy , although this has happened before in the past plenty. My breasts don’t seem very tender , my boyfriend says they don’t feel different. The area around one nipple is slightly darker than the other , but that COULD have been there before.

I only feel fatigue & nausea every once in a blue moon & that was most likely due to the fact that i hadn’t eaten all day.

I am feeling more tired , but then again it’s summer & i stay up till 6:30 a.m & I’m flat out too lazy to wake myself up in the morning. So I guess i just go back to sleep when I’m FULLY rested.

I’m scared that I could just be making excuses for symptoms , but I’m also scared to death of being pregnant.. If I am , my life is over basically. I’m scared to talk to anyone , especially my family & friends(teenage girls tend to have big mouths). We haven’t had sex again since the one time. I’ve taken countless online quizzes & they say I’m most likely not.

What do you think , Hannah ? (I apologize for the abundance of information. I just though it might be necessary.)

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Dear Ariana,

Thank you for your question. No, you should be good to go. I wouldn’t worry about being pregnant. It’s just your nerves. Though, you’d better start getting better sleep and eating more “real” food or else you’ll be asking for some other types of health problems!

You can tell your body to calm down and get back to a normallife.

Cheers,

Hannah

Comments

  1. It’s July 30th and i am concerned about being pregnant. i am only 14 years old. i have not had TRUE sex yet. my boyfriend and i decided to stick it in one day. he had previously ejaculated but then wiped it off. it was only in about ten seconds. he then pulled out. it has finally hit us (four weeks later) that i could possibly be pregnant.

    although, it does seem very unlikely, my periods usually range from the ending of the month to around the beginning of the month. i have experienced some, but very few, cramping and generally i experience more. my period should be arriving in about two days. we have been thinking and stressing very heavily about the situation. which leads to me thinking that my period wont come or be late because of all the stress latley. my boyfriend and i have searched around for pregnancy tests, but cannot find any.

    please feel free to leave an opinion D:

    • If you stress your period is less likely to come and the more paranoid you get the more likely you are to trick your brain into having symptoms, it’s sounds silly really but I had the same thing when I was 16 but at the time was unable to get pregnant. One I was comfirmed not to be symptoms cleared off. I’m pregnant now n didn’t notice symptoms this time till after as I got them every month about week or two before I was due to come on lol.
      Go to your gp or Heath clinic for test it will be free n confidential. If not most convieience stores sell them but is embarassing to buy especially at such a young age. I’m 18 now but got pregnant at 15 n lost baby cause I didn’t go to dr for help so if you are tell someone n go dr. Most people take it better than you’d think or come around x

    • If you stress your period is less likely to come and the more paranoid you get the more likely you are to trick your brain into having symptoms, it’s sounds silly really but I had the same thing when I was 16 but at the time was unable to get pregnant. One I was comfirmed not to be symptoms cleared off. I’m pregnant now n didn’t notice symptoms this time till after as I got them every month about week or two before I was due to come on lol.
      Go to your gp or Heath clinic for test it will be free n confidential. If not most convieience stores sell them but is embarassing to buy especially at such a young age. I’m 18 now but got pregnant at 15 n lost baby cause I didn’t go to dr for help so if you are tell someone n go dr. Most people take it better than you’d think or come around x

  2. Hannah,
    I’ve STILL been stressed !! /: is it normal if you let your stomach go , for it to leave a pooch as well right above your vagina ? anyone ? please help /: i..don’t know what to do..i don’t know how to get a pregnancy test /:

  3. oh , & Nikki , i was under a lot of stress also , & still am /: , but my period came pretty normal. although short. (:

  4. The same thing for me it was my frist time having sex we used a condom and it was like 4 min and I have no symptoms but my period should be coming this weak but I think I am pregnant

  5. Its was my first time having sex and my boyfriend used a condom but he is not sure if it got burst….I took contraceptive pills 24hrs later…..I bled for 4 days after that and I can feel that my breasts are more bigger and tender…..could I get pregnant?am scared

  6. I did the deeds this year in March and we used protection since then I have been feeling okay but like right now I fee like my tummy is growing.The thing is I started watching shows about pregnancy and my mind keeps telling me that I’m pregnant and I never had any symptom of being pregnant just my tummy growing and I’m scared.

  7. I had sex with my fiance on 19sep up to 23rd and I’ve since that day I’ve been tired and thirsty alot but on 24th i got my periods why do i have those signs

  8. So sorry for any damage caused by the way you can also be interested in the world

  9. Beyoncé says:

    I had sex for the first time on the 16 the day I ovulated my period came on its exact due date but it was strange it was light very light I also had brown discharged on the first day of my period my period blood was also bright red as the days passed it got pink it lasted for 5 days like it normal do but the flow was light and stayed light. I also been dry down there when I stick my finger in to check my mucus it’s thin white cloudy it barely stay on my finger cause it’s kinda dry I also have unusual bumps on my beast Montgomery tubercles & white little bumps inside my nipple part my beast are not sore . Why I have new changes .. is I’m pregnant? I took a home pregnancy test on the 23 it was negative and I went to the clinic and took a urine test on the 24 it was negative and my period came on the 30 … is I’m pregnant please help !!

  10. So me and this boy had sex 3 days ago on a Saturday and today is Tuesday and we used a condom and it was my first time and I’m supposed to get my period in a few days and I’m freaking out and my stomach been hurting and I been freaking out that I might not get my period and should I be worried

  11. I had protected sex 5 days before my period , and got my periods near the expected date , now 20 days after sex i feel dizzy and had tingly breasts somedays before. My periods were pretty normal . Idk if i am paranoid or actually pregnant. We just had sex for 2-3 minutes not more than that and its was my first time. Am I pregnant? Any small possibility? The condom remained intact the whole time as i kept checking.

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