John (18) writes: Hi. I am totally freaking out right now and I was hoping this site would help. I am scared that my gf might be pregnant. We’re only 18. We had unprotected sex on Nov 18 2011 which was the 3rd day of her period and I accidentally came inside her. She told me she was still bleeding on her period on he next days after we had sex.
Its now a month and a week late and she still hasn’t had her period yet. We tested with home pregnancy tests from dollar tree and all of them came negative. The first time we tested was before her period was suppose to be due and then we tested again after her period was 2 weeks late. They all came put negative but she’s been telling me that she’s been showing symptoms such as back pain, headaches, and tiredness.
I really don’t know what to do. Im really confused. Can she be pregnant?
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Dear John,
If you had sex in the middle of her period, it would be extremely unlikely that she could become pregnant. Has a girl ever gotten pregnant when having sex during her period? Some claim such. Is it probable? It’s definitely not likely (we’re speaking around 99% certainty).
Was this her first time having sex or does she regularly or rarely have sex? It’s not abnormal for someone who doesn’t have sex frequently to have their period messed up after having the rare moment of sex.
Add to this the negative pregnancy tests (and Dollar Tree’s inexpensive tests work well – I’ve used them many times myself), and I don’t think pregnancy is what you are dealing with. So, what could it be? Possibly nerves or else something else. Anxiety in a girl (i.e. when she is afraid she is pregnant) can mimic many pregnancy symptoms (believe me, this happens all the time). Or, it could be something else which a doc would need to diagnose.
I’d wipe away the worries of her being pregnant. Then, keep a careful eye on the symptoms, and if they continue after the next week, schedule a time to see the doctor. But, pregnancy should not be a cause for how she’s feeling. It could very well be hormones. (Got to love our bodies!).
Best luck,
Hannah
john says
Hi again. Thanks so much this really helps. Yes, we regularly have sex. Sometimes with condoms and sometimes without. BUT when we do have sex without condoms, I am always EXTREMELY cautious. This was the only time I got too carried away when trying to perform the pull out method for the first time. It was really really stupid of me. Her cycle is normally 28 days. Her last period STARTED on Nov 15 or 16 because, as I said up top, I remember the accident happened on Nov 18 which was like 2 or 3 days after her period started and it was DURING her period. She was still bleeding normally for the next couple of days after according to her. It’s now Dec 29 which means she’s about 2 weeks late on her period. (Sorry I said a month and a week late up there i miscalculated) Just in case, I’ll be a little bit more specific. We took dollar tree tests only, the New Choice ones. We took 2 of them a week before her period. Then another a couple of days after her period was supposed to be due. Then took another a week after that. And 2 more the next couple of days. They were ALL negative. It gave me hope but some confusion because she told me she is still experiencing some symptoms and her period STILL isn’t here. As i said on top, backaches, headaches, tiredness. She’s also feeling dizzy now too. I’m thinking of going to the clinic to get tested there and maybe do a blood test after. I am really scared. Sorry if im repeating myself from my previous comment. Im just really paranoid and thought I should be a little more specific. I really do hope its just hormones, like what you said. Any thoughts on this?
Hannah says
John,
Thank you for providing additional details. She should be fine. I’ll side strongly with the many pregnancy tests which she’s taken. It’s improbable that she’s pregnant. The symptoms must be being caused by something else.
Best luck,
Hannah
rachael says
John, women can get pregnant while on their period. Sperm can stay in a womans body a week after having sex.
leona says
i am seven days late on my period my late period was nov. 30,2011 and i still havent started i have lite cramping and bloating like i have gain could i be pregnant i took five test and they showed up positive but i went to the health department and it was negative but could i have went there to early should i wait a couple more weeks and go back if i dont start?
courtney says
Hi i have a question me and my bf had sex and we used a condom but it broke he still used the pull out method but i don’t know if he gotten some in me. I am a week late for my period i have been having abdominal pains,pain in the side headache, also i have been much hunger than usual. Could i pregnant? Can you please tell me something? Thanks
jessica says
Hi my name is Jessica j I had my period on Jan 5th me and my bf we had sex on round like the 10th of Jan he didnt pull out we had sex again on 15 Sunday morning and I was just worrying if I can get pregnant week after my period cause my best friend told me I could 2012
Hannah says
Jessica,
In theory, it’s possible to get pregnant any time of the month. However, having sex at certain times of the month increases your odds. It’s always best to use at least a condom; even better to get started on a regular birth control prescription. Let’s hope you have your next period the beginning of February; however, if you don’t, then I would strongly recommend taking a couple pregnancy tests. I would take the first one around Feb 10, and be sure to take it first thing in the morning.
Good luck,
Hannah
deborah says
Hi my name deborah I was on the depo injection for 2 yrs I came off it in august2011 and for past 4days I’ve got very sensitive nipples, and get period like pains, i haven’t had a period in the 2yrs is this a sign that their coming bk, last time I was on depo jab after my first son it took 18-20months before my period came. Or could I be pregnant we did have unprotected sex in oct, please help
Kick says
folawe,pls i had aortoibn about 4 month ago now,but to conceive now is problem,pls what do think i can do to conceive now,because my husband is not happy with me now
Amy says
Hi, I have a question and i’m really worried. I’m sorry to provide graphic details though, lol. Basically I’m 17, and a virgin, but me and my boyfriend were messing around and he ejaculated onto my tummy, which then ran down ‘there’ My last period was 20th January so if i was to be pregnant, i would be about 4 weeks gone, but i’m still awaiting my next period. I have had slight cramping and sore nipples, and horrible pressure like headaches with dizziness. I have that ‘feeling’ that something’s not normal, but what are the chances of me being pregnant? I’m too scared to take a test so early, because I’m scared of the result!
Ddnt know says
I had sex at the ending of my period my bf came inside me kuz I ddnt think it was possible to get pregnant during ur period around a week later I had this sharp abdominal pain on the right side the next day both sides felt swollen lasted about three days my period usually comes at the end of the month but it came two weeks late n I still have sharp abdominal pain can it b an ectopic pregnancy?I waited about a week n took pregnancy test both came out negative.
Jiyu says
I had protected sex on 9th may.
I got my periods on 14th may and again on 23Rd may.
I didn’t get my periods in June and today is 4th July and still I am not getting periods.
Does this mean I am pregnant?
Reply
Pls reply. I am messed up
ayomide says
Hi my is show I have a day to my period ,can I get pregnant
ayomide says
Hi my is show I have sex a day to my period ,can I get pregnant
MARGARET opoku says
Please I have sex in my danger period
And I can see that I was suppose to be pregnant by now bt my menstruation has come again,I had my men’s on 21 of July,and ended at 26 of July,I had sex in 5,9,10,11august and my men’s started on 15 August the I suppose to menstruation
precious says
A lady had unprotectedsex a day after her period,she later take postenol 1 after 6hrs. Can she be pregnant
Matu Say say says
I had an unprotected sex and now am worry if am pregnant. I took medicine to weaken d sperm but still not convince about its reaction.I had it not too long, it was on Monday of this week.I saw my period the closely to d end of November.
Chisom says
Pls every month I normally see my period a month and 2week and am praying to become pregnant .pls what will I do because this month this a month and 3 days but I have not seen it
Patra says
Hi I had my last period on 11th last month had sex that same day because it wasn’t flowing blood well the first day and now I have now I have not see my period and feeling dizzy and tiredness.could it be that I’m pregnant