Celise (age 15) writes,
My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time on June 6. We used a condom and it did not break or slipped off. I was supposed to get my period the 12th but I never did and I’m still waiting. I haven’t experienced any pregnancy symptoms. I’m scared that I may be pregnant and I don’t know what to do.
My parents would kill me if I told them. I want to take a test but I can’t. I thought maybe i’m stressing a lot about this and that’s why my period hasn’t come. Please PLEASE help me
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Okay so today i took an at home pregnancy test and both the control screen and the littler on were negative. I was wondering when i schould take the second one? me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and the condom didnt break but i wanna be extra sure cause my period still hasnt come.we had sex the 6th of June my period was supposed to come the 12th…I don’t know how accurate the test was. PLEASE HELP ME CAUSE MY PARENTS CANNOT KNOWW..HELP PLEASEEE.
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Okay so the pregnacny test i took earlier today looked like this I in the bigger screen and – in the smaller one..AM I PREGNANT!?!?!?!
IM FREAKING OUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO HELP ME PLEASEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!
Ok – calm down. Let’s go through this “scientifically” and look at your probabilities. Assuming you are on a 28 day cycle, your last period started on or around May 15. Ovulation, on average, takes place 14 days before the start of your next period (June 12), which means that ovulation probably took place for you on May 29, regardless of whether your period is on a 28 day cycle, 29 day or 30 day cycle. The egg is then usually fertile for about 24 hours. Having sex on June 6, therefore, falls during a time when you were most likely not fertile (and couldn’t become pregnant).
Because you used a condom and didn’t notice any semen leaking or spilling out, your odds (even if having sex happened during a fertile time for you) are still very much in your favor against becoming pregnant.
Now, why your period didn’t come could be caused by several things (or the combination of several different things). If this was your first time having sex ever, then that experience could mess up your cycle. Add to that your nervousness over being pregnant, and you have a fairly winning combination for delaying your period (or causing it to skip). Our bodies are crazy about stuff like this, believe me!
With the pregnancy test, you have to carefully read the instructions and do exactly what it says. Many of the cheaper urine home pregnancy test kits can be quite confusing to read. One thing which is easy to do (and then jump to conclusions as a result) is letting the pregnancy test sit longer than the time specified in the instructions. What happens then is the urine begins to dry on the strip and you’ll start seeing urine lines which are a far cry from being a positive pregnancy line.
All in all, I don’t believe your pregnant. But do be very careful in the future – and when you have a quiet moment, take the time to ask yourself if having sex with your boyfriend now is really the best investment you can make to develop an enduring, substantial relationship. If your boyfriend is the one pressuring you to be physical all the way with him, find out if he really loves you or just lusts you.