Liza (age 14) writes: “i had sex right after my period eneded and i’m late for my period. but we used a condom but it didn’t break or anything! and i have been having signs of getting my period but it has not come! is it late because i might be pregnant or because of my stress?! please help me. i’ve been crying. m parents are strict.. to the extreme. they’d be more mad than dissapointed & if i am pregnant idkk how to tell them!“
Have you tried taking a home pregnancy test? You could always get one at Walmart or a local pharmacy and even do it in their bathroom if you weren’t able to take it home and do it there. Having sex right after your period ended would give you a slim probability for getting pregnant (it is true that sperm can live inside you for several days, but ovulation – at the earliest – typically doesn’t take place until day 10, and usually ovulation is later around day 14 or 15 with day 1 being the first day of your last period).
Using a condom that doesn’t break is a pretty fairly “safe” birth control method, though many people are a bit sloppy with condoms and some sperm can get inside you then, and that’s what gives condoms a higher than expected failure rate.
Hopefully, it’s just your stress and worrying that is having an effect on your period. Personally, that’s my bet. However, just to make sure, I’d recommend you wait until the day when your expected period should have ended, and then take that home pregnancy test. That should help calm your nerves.
In the unlikely event that you are pregnant, I bet you’d be surprised at how supportive your parents could be. Yes, they’d be initially upset with you – more so in shock – and, yes, they’d be very disappointed in you (and that will last), but they can get over it regardless of how strict they are, and they’ll surprise you with their support once they come around (and that can take a while). I know well from experience. But, hopefully, you won’t have to cross that line.
Best of luck!